Is it a hell yes?
There is a distinct difference in the feeling from people that say yes because they want to say yes, and people that say yes, because they think they should say yes.
Suggestions for when a request comes your way:
If an instinctive yes comes to the forefront. Go with it. Back your decision all the way.
If you hesitate to respond. Buy time. Think about it. And ask yourself if it’s something you really want to do. Are you going to do it because you feel bad, or are you doing it because you really really want to. Keeping in mind that it never feels good when someone’s yes comes from a place where they will feel bad about themselves.
Instinctively you know it’s not for you. Don’t second-guess yourself. Save everyone the time and hassle, yourself included, by calling it. Calling no is respectful. To both you and the person.
No isn’t a bad word. It’s honest. And people will appreciate your honesty, even if they might not understand it.
If you have no idea. You are completely on the fence. It could be time for some self-exploration. What do you enjoy. What don’t you enjoy. What would I say hell yes to? What would I say hell no to. Why and when do you find yourself facing indecision? Could there be something deeper going on? Could it be confidence in your own choices? If this is the case, the outcome is ‘how do I become more confident about what it is that I am drawn to’, for example.
Saying yes to everything could mean that the things that you want to say ‘hell yes’ loses it’s weighting amongst all the other things going on.
