What to do when you face a lack of emotional intelligence?
An emotional Intelligence score of zero out of ten!
When someone tells you something about yourself that you didn’t see. You actually didn’t even come close to seeing it. Completely and utterly blindsided. When this happens it is so, so hard, to not go into defensive mode. Even if you are in a place of zen. The feeling comes up before you even realise it.
What do you mean? Are you sure? Can you explain that more? Yeah, or, but it could be your perspective? Or people’s reference points are different? Maybe you interpreted differently? The intention was never coming from that space. Maybe we were just misaligned.
So while the questions and thoughts are skirting around, you recognise yourself being crash tackled by your defensiveness and then you try to pull yourself out of it. Telling yourself to stay open. Just listen. Hear what they have to say. What if they are right? Well, they are right because it’s their interpretation. Oh no. They are right. And now what?
You come face to face with this part of you that you didn’t really know. Or maybe you did, but your justification mechanisms have kept this side of you in the dark. So what now… um? Look after self. Gain a new level of awareness of self. Gain a new level of awareness of others. Take the learnings. New day tomorrow. Opportunity for a new self. Try not to repeat.
